I used to think something was wrong with me.

I couldn’t quite feel close to people, even the ones I loved most.
I’d say the right things, smile at the right times — but it all felt surface-level. Like I was playing a role I didn’t fully believe in.

And when things got tense? I’d either shut down completely or over-explain until I exhausted myself trying to be understood.

It wasn’t that I didn’t care. I cared too much. I just didn’t know how to connect in a way that didn’t leave me drained or defensive.

I used to blame my personality. Or my past. Or them.
But the truth? I’d never been taught how to build healthy emotional connection.
I had communication habits that kept people at arm’s length — even when I wanted closeness more than anything.

That’s when I tried relationship coaching. And yes — I rolled my eyes at first, too.

I thought it was only for couples on the edge of a breakup. But actually, it’s for anyone who’s tired of repeating the same patterns, tired of not feeling seen, and ready to do something about it.

Here’s what changed for me:

• I stopped making assumptions. I used to read into tone, facial expressions, even text replies. Coaching taught me to ask instead of assume. That alone saved so many arguments.

• I got clear on my triggers. I realised I wasn’t “too emotional” — I just had unhealed stuff that flared up in the middle of conversations. Coaching helped me recognise it without shame.

• I learnt how to actually listen. Not just wait for my turn to speak. But listen to understand. It changed everything — in romantic relationships, friendships, even work.

Now, I’m not perfect. I still get it wrong sometimes. But I feel connected — truly connected — in a way I never used to. I don’t walk away from conversations wondering if I said too much or not enough. I don’t shrink myself just to keep the peace.

If you’re struggling to connect — if every conversation feels like a landmine or a performance — coaching can help. It’s not about becoming someone else. It’s about learning how to show up as you, and actually be heard.

You’re not “bad at relationships.” You just haven’t had the right tools yet. That can change.