From Blame on to Game On

 Randy Mosier       February 14, 2025

Subtitle: How Forgiveness Forges the Path to Wholeness

Blame On vs. Game On

  • Blame On: Holding others responsible for our pain, replaying past hurts, and seeking revenge or compensation.
  • Game On: Accepting responsibility, forgiving (even intentional harm), and moving forward with clarity and purpose.

The Cost of Unforgiveness

  • Blame is easy, but it keeps us stuck.
  • Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer.
  • Emotional stagnation affects personal and professional growth.

My Journey: From Stagnation to Action

  • Transitioned from a state job to a nonprofit mental health center in 2017.
  • Excitement turned to struggle—new program, shifting professional views, and team dynamics.
  • Conflict arose when my vision clashed with my supervisor’s, causing stress and misalignment.

When Your Vision Clashes with Leadership

If you're experiencing a conflict between your mission and your supervisor’s expectations:

  1. Clarify the mission – Compare your understanding with official statements.
  2. Communicate openly – Have a formal/informal discussion to align expectations.
  3. Create an action plan – Identify steps to promote mission clarity in your team.
  4. Engage leadership – Determine how to support the broader organizational goals.

What If Your Values Are in Conflict?

  • Ask yourself: Is it a misunderstanding, or a fundamental values misalignment?
  • Seek clarity through honest conversations.
  • Consider discussing the issue with higher leadership—but weigh potential repercussions.

  • A life coach can help you explore options and develop an actionable path forward.

Moving From Blame to Action

  • Blame keeps you powerless; taking ownership creates momentum.
  • Coaches ask tough questions, provide accountability, and help you build a concrete plan.

  • Inaction is still a choice—with consequences.

Are you ready to stop blaming and start taking control? Let’s develop a plan together—reach out today.